mister slippery Posted May 24, 2007 Report Share Posted May 24, 2007 I spent today at a funeral for a lovely young woman, who was taken from us last Sunday evening, at 36 years old, from a year-long battle with Brain Cancer. It always brightens my heart at a funeral when there's a good crowd of friends, family and loved ones, to share and remenisce of days gone by.Wonder who'll turn up at mine? I cant imagine a crowd like Judy got today (prob 250-300 people), but its given me something else to think about in all of this.sorry if this seems morbid and fatalistic, just something my brain's been playing with. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dr_Evil_Mouse Posted May 24, 2007 Report Share Posted May 24, 2007 I always find myself wondering what music is going to get played at mine (I guess that says something about my priorities). Then again, I suppose I shouldn't really have anything to do with it; if anyone came, I'd be grateful, were I to exist on any plane at all.It's a great question, though. By definition, it is morbid, but as a culture we do an awful lot to sweep it under the carpet. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bradm Posted May 24, 2007 Report Share Posted May 24, 2007 It's a great question, though. By definition, it is morbid, but as a culture we do an awful lot to sweep it under the carpet. Especially when urns (un)intentionally get knocked over...Aloha,Brad Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
meggo Posted May 24, 2007 Report Share Posted May 24, 2007 sorry about your friend, mister s. 36 is so young. i hope you're doing okay. i have been to alotta funerals and i think it's pretty natural to think about what yours will be like. sometimes i wonder if i'll be young or old, and if there will be good music there. sometimes i want to pick out songs or something funny to happen b/c i don't want it to be too sad... but then i think 'eek!', and that somehow if i start planning my funeral it's going to come sooner. same thing with making a will or an epitaph. irrational but true! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bradm Posted May 24, 2007 Report Share Posted May 24, 2007 We had a small service (no casket, just a picture), with family (what's left of them) and close friends, then a group lunch, then a party. A party? No, it was a celebration: the golf friends were there, the square dancing friends were there, former co-workers were there, hell, my friends, and their parents, were there...I think we counted about 250 people, all told. My Mom threw in a couple of cases of homemade wine (which vanished pretty much instantly), and we whooped it up. My Mom and a close friend of my Dad's said a few words; I didn't. I should have.Near the end, one of my all-time best friends took me aside, and said, "I've got a bottle of straight malt in the car..." Next thing you know, he, I, my brother, a couple of our friends, and a few friends of my Dad are standing in the rec room kitchen, toasting my Dad with Glen Ord, drunk from styrofoam coffee cups. It seemed fitting, somehow.(That was an excerpt from a longer piece I wrote about my Dad.)Aloha,Brad Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paisley Posted May 24, 2007 Report Share Posted May 24, 2007 sorry to hear about your friend's early passing mister slippery... at least she got to have a good taste of lifewhen I go I hope there'll be dancing Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Douglas Posted May 24, 2007 Report Share Posted May 24, 2007 Is there a way to have a funeral without people being sad/crying? That's what I want mine to be like. Hope you're doing alright, Mr. S. Miss her, love her, and celebrate her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PassedOutGuy Posted May 25, 2007 Report Share Posted May 25, 2007 Dave, I'm sorry to hear of your friend.. all the strength to you, family and friends...and I second exactly what Douglas just posted... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
popo weenie Posted May 25, 2007 Report Share Posted May 25, 2007 sending my deepest sympathy to you and the familyvery sad indeadas for me i do not think about anything about death, its like i am going to live forever can,t think about anything but living nowI had a hard time to make a will thought for sure i was in for the big onei know i am wrong living like that but i am at peace and to hell with the rest, out of my control anyway Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sarahbelle Posted May 25, 2007 Report Share Posted May 25, 2007 I totally think about my funeral.. I wonder who would show up...I HATE TO THINK OF THIS.. but mr sliipery if anything happened to U at all (god forbid) I would be there for sure.... eek... that is too weird. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hamilton Posted May 25, 2007 Report Share Posted May 25, 2007 I'm planning on living forever. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bONES Posted May 25, 2007 Report Share Posted May 25, 2007 please, please, PLEASE if you make it to my funeral PARTY like there's no tomorrow drink beer smoke tons of pot dance to the Grateful Dead and know I'm smiling at it all going down Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shainhouse Posted May 25, 2007 Report Share Posted May 25, 2007 I want my funeral to be a party.. a celebration.. with music. Dave, my condolances for your loss mate. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Freak By Night Posted May 25, 2007 Report Share Posted May 25, 2007 Deepest sympathies Mr. Slippery.I am going to be in the same boat soon. A friend of mine has bladder cancer which apparently is treatable, but the cancer has moved to his lungs and the doctors have told him that it's terminal, and it's a matter of months now. He may not even make it to his 41st birthday. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rob Not Bob Posted May 25, 2007 Report Share Posted May 25, 2007 It's a great question' date=' though. By definition, it is morbid, but as a culture we do an awful lot to sweep it under the carpet. [/quote']Especially when urns (un)intentionally get knocked over...Boo! Urns! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jay Funk Dawg Posted May 25, 2007 Report Share Posted May 25, 2007 At this point all I've thought about is the music... .this song is a must!! "SPIRIT IN THE SKY"Wikipedia Spirit in the Sky Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mister slippery Posted May 26, 2007 Author Report Share Posted May 26, 2007 Thank you all for kind words, this site and its inhabitants can say some awefully wonderful things. You're all very kind. Brad, ive read that piece of yers before, its lovely. As for me, the only real thing ive thought of, like most of you alluded to already, is the music id want. no doubt, Joy Division's "Atmosphere" would have to be played. Sorry in advance if anything (god forbid) ever happens to me, cuz its a sad song, and it might bumm you out if you come. (despite how this may read, im really not suicidal, im just high, and morbidly thoughtful.) Thanks again, Jambands, much love to you all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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