shainhouse Posted November 11, 2002 Report Share Posted November 11, 2002 I think there was a post about something similar to this a few days ago and I just found this out so I'm just super depressed/bummed about it. My buddy has been battling colon cancer for five years and it's gotten to the point where he is unconscious in his bed at home. He has forbade anyone to take him to the hospital because he's been there on and off and there is nothing more anyone can do. In one way I'm glad he's going to 'escape' any day soon, but I don't think I'll ever see him again. He's beaten death 3 times now but some people just can't keep cheating the inevitable. He's lying in his bed, breathing but gone. We're just waiting for the final breath so we can pay our respects to one of the finest friends I ever got the chance of meeting. Sorry for rambling and spouting my problems, I'm just supposed to be writing and essay and I'm having major difficulties not bawling right now. Peace- Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
backbacon Posted November 11, 2002 Report Share Posted November 11, 2002 Our thoughts are with you, Shane. Keep strong, brother. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
meggo Posted November 11, 2002 Report Share Posted November 11, 2002 i'm really sorry shane. that's an awful thing to go thru. as keri said, we'll be thinking of you and your friend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jaimoe Posted November 11, 2002 Report Share Posted November 11, 2002 Hey Shane. I'm there for you man. My dad died of bowel/colon cancer 6 years ago and let me tell you, he's in a better place now. Cancer of any kind is a demoralizing killer. It's so unfair. Keep this in mind however, I believe that in a short while you'll be able to look back and smile about the good times you had with your friend. Don't forget this: People never die as long as the memory of them lives. I lost a friend of mine 7 years ago from cancer, she was 24, and the one thing that stays with me is her memories. Keep your chin up Shane. Things will get better, but it's going to be tough for a while. Emotions are a good thing and a way of healing. My thoughts are with you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bradm Posted November 11, 2002 Report Share Posted November 11, 2002 It may sound trite, but have you considered trying to rig up a music feed for him? He may not be able to communicate, but having some good sounds in the background might help a bit, and the music may reach him in a way that words can't. Aloha, Brad Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jaimoe Posted November 11, 2002 Report Share Posted November 11, 2002 Nice thought Brad. I played guitar and sang to my dad when he was days away from dying. He was in a morphine induced coma, but he seemed less restless when I played for him. Joey Ramone also listened to " Beautiful Day " when he was on his death-bed. Music is always a good thing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bradm Posted November 11, 2002 Report Share Posted November 11, 2002 For yourself, Shane, I recommend reading (at least the introduction to) the book "Angry Candy" by Harlan Ellison. Ellison's collections often end up with themes, and this collection deals largely with death. The introduction describes his experiences in the mid-to-late '80s, when a lot of his friends and acquaintances were dying. While the whole book is good, the one story to read is the last, "The Function Of Dream Sleep." Aloha, Brad Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
secondtube Posted November 11, 2002 Report Share Posted November 11, 2002 quote: Don't forget this: People never die as long as the memory of them lives. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shainhouse Posted November 11, 2002 Author Report Share Posted November 11, 2002 He's with his family in Toronto and I am in Hamilton, so I've come to terms with probably never seeing him again. Thanks for the wishes and I apologize for bearing my mind on this board. I feel selfish about it and I appreciate all the kind wishes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MarcO Posted November 11, 2002 Report Share Posted November 11, 2002 quote:Originally posted by shainhouse: He's with his family in Toronto and I am in Hamilton, so I've come to terms with probably never seeing him again. Thanks for the wishes and I apologize for bearing my mind on this board. I feel selfish about it and I appreciate all the kind wishes.No need to feel that way, man... stay positive and focused and honour your friend that way, and never be afraid to tell your friends and community what's on your mind and in your heart... take care, Shain. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sunshine Posted November 12, 2002 Report Share Posted November 12, 2002 I'm sending you a hug. My grandmother has just been diagnosed with Cancer, it can be a very difficult thing to accept. Take care Shain. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
doug Posted November 12, 2002 Report Share Posted November 12, 2002 Never feel bad about calling on others for support or just as an outlet to vent. Things would get very messy if we had to keep everything inside. We all need support from time to time. I pray this darkness doesnt last too long. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arcane Posted November 12, 2002 Report Share Posted November 12, 2002 Everybody deals with this kind of stuff differently. Some folks prefer to talk about it; others prefer to keep to themselves. We have some of each kind, here. Me, I'd rather see that steam valve get a workout than get shrapnel acupuncture from an exploding kettle. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paisley Posted November 12, 2002 Report Share Posted November 12, 2002 We all go sometime. Its just as likely that it'll be untimely as it is that you'll grow to be an old codger. One positive thing about cancer(I know that doesn't sound feasible) is that you at least get a time to prepare yourself and those around you. I had a close friend lose her parent in a car accident a couple of weeks ago and she was robbed of the opportunity to say goodbye and express her inner feelings. I guess the moral is live each day as well as you are able and let those you care about know that you do. We're all here on borrowed time. I always try to go out and do some things that make me me when I lose someone close(after I climb out of the whiskey bottle). It seems like a worthy tribute to those who no longer have the opportunity to live to live well in their honor. Peace and best wishes. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shainhouse Posted November 12, 2002 Author Report Share Posted November 12, 2002 Thanks everyone. I really, truly appreciate it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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